Well, Stephen handled class last Saturday, and they apparently had an interesting discussion. Warning: the discussion went into some pretty extreme behaviors--extreme enough that they've never been seen in Houston, as far as I know.
Alright, you've had your warning! Now, here's Stephen's notes on class:
This week we continued a discussion that started online as “Acts of Submission.”
The class started with a general agreement that the single most submissive act a bottom can do is to give a blowjob. Blowjobs are followed very closely by the second most submissive act, angry-doggy-style-hair-pullin’-mean-anal-sex. After everyone in the meeting came to that agreement, I allowed other people to speak. >:-D
We started with submissive acts that are subtle enough to do in public without calling attention to the lifestyle.
- A submissive calling the Top (insert Dom(me), or Master as applies to your relationship) Daddy or Mommy, since the parents in many vanilla families do that as well.
- Holding the submissive’s wrist instead of their hand takes away a layer of control without being blatant.
- Opening doors, lighting cigarettes
It was pointed out that just how the act is submissive depends on the relationship of those involved. Opening a car door for another may be the act of a submissive taking care of his Domme, the act of a Dominant “caring” for his submissive, or it may be a completely vanilla gesture of good manners. Cooking dinner, bathing someone, getting a drink for them… unless you know the relationship of the people involved, it is difficult to tell by just watching who is Top and who is bottom.
Using small acts of submission can help a couple begin to “gear up” for a scene or a weekend party by helping both start to get into play headspace. A comment was made that the same type of acts of submission can help mitigate sub or Top “drop.” Travis mentioned a couple that have a different style of play, in which the submissive actually goes thru her drop
during the scene. It’s kind of extreme, so if you have a weak stomach, I’d skip to the last paragraph now.
By way of background information, the couple is known for doing a certain type of demo, which they call “Extreme Degradation.” The submissive involved is an attractive lady, who thrives on being objectified and reviled during a scene. She wants the most humiliating and disgusting things done to her during a scene, but she takes what is done to her, after she’s gone thru the scene, and uses it as a source of strength. She uses it as a reminder she is no better, and no worse, than anyone else. Kinda like “that which does not kill me makes me stronger.” The scenes revolve around stripping away her dignity, but simply making it thru the scene imparts a degree of dignity upon her.
The scenes will start with lots of plastic dropcloths and a small wading pool. (This is NOT a Gallagher show! If offered a raincoat or plastic, either cover up or move back!) The submissive is given Ipecac to cause her to vomit, and an enema, and then she is force-fed, all the while telling her how disgusting she is. The scene progresses thru the forced eating, purging, anyone interested is allowed to piss on her, more enemas until she’s covered in filth. At the end of the scene, the Top throws a tarp over her in the pool.
This is where she is hitting her “drop”. She’s been told how repulsive and worthless she is. She’s been covered in slop, forced to purge, strangers pissed on her as she lay in a pool of her own vomit and shit. She’s been forced about as low as you can go. And for her, everything after the scene is following the path back up. As she cleans up, instead of crashing, she gets energized. She suffered thru the worst and is stronger for it. So she never gets “sub drop” after they play. leslie says she’ll take a little depression after a party instead. Maybe a little spanking on Wednesday night.
If anyone needs a kids wading pool, we have one for sale. If you skipped to this point, we’ll even buy you lunch. Just don’t be surprised if no one else is hungry.
